| I know that most people reading this will not have | | | | thought that was a little bit extreme and over the |
| a clue, how to find out if someone is married or | | | | top, I mean the last thing I wanted was for |
| not, neither did I until recently, but it's amazing | | | | someone to think that I was being paranoid, I |
| what you can do when you are feeling very | | | | was doing a great job of that on my own. The |
| frustrated. I was in a fantastic new relationship | | | | second reason that I didn't hire a private |
| which was just perfect. After a few weeks I | | | | investigator was the sheer cost involved, I spoke |
| started getting a little annoyed at the fact that he | | | | to one company who charged by the hour and |
| kept going off for two days at a time. | | | | told me that it could take a couple of months of |
| I will be completely honest here, I never actually | | | | following him before they had any hard evidence, |
| came right out and asked him if he was married | | | | this would cost a lot of money, I mean thousands. |
| when we started dating, not a very bright move | | | | And what if he wasn't cheating on me? I would |
| on my behalf, this should be one of the first | | | | have spent all that money for nothing. |
| things you ask even if you don't want them to be | | | | A friend told me to start asking questions about |
| married. | | | | his past, I thought that this was going to be a bit |
| Anyway, despite my little oversight I was still | | | | obvious. Asking the same question over and over |
| feeling very frustrated. I didn't want to seem like | | | | again but spreading it out over the course of a |
| the over possessive girlfriend, but I also didn't | | | | few weeks seemed like a good plan, this way |
| want him to think that I was stupid enough to | | | | any difference in the reply would be noticed |
| just let thing carry on as they were either. If you | | | | immediately. The only problem is that some |
| have ever been in this position you will know how | | | | people are very good liars and have rehearsed |
| vulnerable you can feel at times. | | | | their stories that well that it could take months |
| I thought of hiring a private investigator, but I | | | | before I found out. |